Attachment and detachment in relationship

This is a great posting

Spiritual Living

Holding On and Letting Go


I, like most people, have done both.

But what is common on both extremes is one thing: selfishness. Whenever I put what I want for myself in higher priority than what the other person needs, we’re both in trouble. Without love, and with selfishness, all parties lose.

It’s a challenge to let go in order to make the necessary moral choices when you are very attracted to someone and there is a strong desire to be close to that person. It’s also challenging not to run away when you find yourself getting attached to someone while being very afraid of being hurt and becoming vulnerable. But if we want to have lasting love in our life, we have to face those challenges head on.

During my teenage years I avoided girls like the plague; I was terrified! I had low self-esteem and basically did what…

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